When did you last silence yourself?

When did you last silence yourself?

I coach a leader whose biggest goal is to truly believe in herself and her capabilities at work. She has proven her talent a million times, yet I see her struggling with something so many of us face: a fear of judgment. 

She spends a lot of energy building a literal wall around herself, afraid of what others might think if she fails. 

↠ Negative self-talk is a real thing.

As an executive coach, I'm supposed to maintain a professional distance, but honestly, I see so much of myself in her experience.

I remember countless times when I held back, convinced my work wasn’t ready. Like those workshops where someone had to present in the breakout group, and I’d silently pray it wasn’t me. 

Or almost not applying for a new position within my company, because "Oh, I don't tick all the boxes". It’s a familiar feeling, this fear of not measuring up.

The turning point came when I started recognizing the moment that negative chatter began. 

It's like spotting the first brick of that wall being laid. 

↠ Once you see it, you can start to dismantle it. 

My client is learning to visualize that wall quite literally 🧱. 

And I've found that picturing something positive, like bright flowers 🌸, can help push those negative thoughts away. (Like the ones I saw during my stay in India 👇)

That's when good things start to happen and the imposter is gone (for a while, at least).

It's true, noticing that wall or calling those flowers is a quite journey. But you get rewarded. 

You may discover that the wall you built was never really protecting you; it was just keeping you from the things you truly wanted.

Do you have your wall or flower?

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